Ghosting is pretty much the rudest way to dump someone, and it gets progressively worse the longer you are with that person. Ghost someone after a couple dates? Coward! Ghost someone after a couple months? Rude! Ghost someone after a couple years? Absolute waste of skin, spineless jerk. The worst part of ghosting is that, for the most part, the ghosters get away with it. Usually, how the story goes is that you ghost someone and seamlessly disappear from their lives — not unlike an actual ghost. Well, except for the case of one guy who ghosted his future boss.
Remember him? Well, if you don’t, let me give you a little refresher. Basically, this dude was dating his girlfriend, Sylvia, for three years. They were even living together for two of those years. When he felt like things were getting too serious and Sylvia was getting a little too ready to commit for his liking, he bounced. But, of course, like a true ghoster, he didn’t just bounce; he waited until she went home for the holidays to pack all of his stuff out of their SHARED apartment and move to another country.
He, like most ghosters, thought he was never going to see her again. That is, until 10 years down the line, when justice was served in the SWEETEST way possible: She came back into his life… as his boss.
How does he feel about his story going viral?
Simply put? Not great.
In his own words, the poster really didn’t expect this level of hype surrounding his personal life: “I can say that in no way I expected that writing to a very popular but a niche professional blog would result in such Internet s*t storm,” he wrote.
So… I’d say he’s not loving all of the negative attention he’s been getting.
You guys, Sylvia is actual goals. You know that fantasy you have where you waltz back into your ex’s life, and not only are you his boss, but also, you’re thriving personally because you ended up marrying someone way better and have a happy family, while they have nothing? Well, that’s pretty much her reality.
Even her ex admitted, “She has done very well for herself.” He continued,
She is married, with kids and her husband is originally from here. They relocated because of his business opportunity, not because she would be stalking me or would orchestrate this in some elaborate vendetta.
Yeah, she’s over him, and he knows it. Also, she’s thriving. She is GOALS.
Have he and Sylvia interacted?
This is where things get juicy.
According to the ghoster himself, after his original post, he reached out to Sylvia via her personal email address so they could potentially meet up and get the awkwardness out of the way. Like the boss she is, Sylvia took a page out of his book and didn’t respond. [Full disclosure: This could also be because she’s changed emails since 10 years ago, when they were last in communication.]
Finally, the guy sent an email to her professional account one to their HR department, and that’s when he finally heard from the chair of the board of overseers about scheduling a meeting.
“I met with him, together with Sylvia, the same day,” he explained. “As you can imagine, this meeting was incredibly embarrassing for me, personally and professionally. ” HA, that sucks.
Is he still working for her?
Although the place where he and Sylvia work “did not think the past failed relationship was a sackable offense,” they gave him a pretty intense list of guidelines he was supposed to follow in terms of when/if he was allowed to interact with her and his own co-workers and that he was essentially more replaceable than Sylvia. So basically, he resigned in that meeting.
To summarize his whole experience and the resulting consequences, he wrote,
In a summary, as many of those self-righteous people on the Internet hoped, I came out of this with no job, no severance and no prospect for another job in this city. Obviously, I have to leave as I need to make a living. I will be shortly moving back home for several months to work as a substitute teacher, with an agency. I will see what next later. So I had my comeuppance.
Justice, my friends, was served after all.
Check out the entire Gen Why series and other videos on Facebook and the Bustle app across Apple TV, Roku, and Amazon Fire TV.
Check out the “Best of Elite Daily” stream in the Bustle App for more stories just like this!